Let’s Talk About Intimacy
Can we just talk for a minute about something kind of sacred… but also kind of confusing?
Intimacy in marriage.
Yep. That thing no one really taught us about, but we were somehow just expected to figure out once we got married.
For something so powerful—so spiritually significant—it’s kind of wild how little guidance most of us were given. Maybe your parents didn’t talk about it. Maybe the only “education” you got came from movies, the world, or silence. And so here we are… married, committed, doing our best, but sometimes feeling unsure or even disconnected when it comes to this part of marriage.
If that’s you, you’re so not alone.
Here’s what I know for sure: intimacy is a divine gift.
It’s not just about physical connection—it’s about emotional safety, trust, forgiveness, and unity. It’s the only part of marriage that is just for the two of you. It requires a level of vulnerability that nothing else in life really does. That’s part of why it can feel so hard… but also why it can be so healing and beautiful when it’s nurtured with love and intention.
In fact, sometimes intimacy can serve as a mirror for how your marriage is doing. Are we leaning in? Are we avoiding? Are we communicating, or quietly pulling back?
When we slow down and really listen to those signals, we can catch things early and choose to reconnect rather than drift.
💭 A Little Gospel Perspective
“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”
—Genesis 2:24
There’s something sacred about this part of marriage. The world can make it feel casual, or purely physical, or even shameful—but the Lord sees it differently. He created intimacy to be joyful, bonding, and deeply spiritual—within the safety and commitment of a covenant marriage.
The Family Proclamation reminds us that “the sacred powers of procreation are to be employed only between man and woman, lawfully wedded as husband and wife.” That’s not just a rule—it’s a loving boundary designed to protect us and bless us.
I once heard someone say that intimacy is like fire 🔥 In the fireplace, it warms and lights the home. Outside of it—it burns things down. When kept within the Lord’s design, it becomes a source of joy, connection, and yes—spiritual strength.
🌱 This Week’s Gentle Invitation
Ask yourself—gently and honestly:
Do I love the intimate part of my marriage?
Do I feel open, connected, and safe? Or does something feel a little off?
Is there something I could say, change, or ask for this week that would bring more love and closeness into this sacred space?
Also consider:
How can I invite the Spirit into this part of our relationship?
What beliefs or baggage might I be carrying that aren’t actually from the Lord?
And maybe this week, just start with a conversation. Or a prayer. Or one small act of vulnerability. That’s where connection begins.
You don’t have to have it all figured out. You don’t have to get it perfect.
Just keep showing up with love, with faith, and with a heart that’s willing to try.
Cheering for you always,
Leslie 💛
