The Gift of Loving Another Human
This community lights me up. It inspires me deeply. I’m filled with gratitude for women like you who are willing to invest in their marriages—not just for themselves, but for the ripple effect that reaches your families, communities, and generations to come.
The sooner we fill our minds with good thoughts, wise tools, and inspired promptings, the sooner we begin to experience real transformation in our relationships. So thank you for showing up again this week. I admire and honor you.
Today, my heart is centered on the gift of loving another human being.
Marriage can be the most refining, rewarding relationship on earth—but it also brings us face to face with our most human tendencies. Living in close proximity with another soul (especially one wired so differently!) is going to cause friction. And when that person is the opposite sex, the odds of misunderstanding only increase.
Men and women do not process the world the same way—and that’s not a problem. It’s a gift. But without awareness, those differences can feel threatening. What’s “not like me” can seem wrong or even unsafe. Without meaning to, we start seeing our spouse as the enemy, rather than our partner.
That’s why learning from wise mentors, coaches, authors, and couples who’ve walked the path before us is so powerful. When we gain a deeper understanding of our differences and how to honor them, the relationship starts to shift. The tension turns to teamwork. The struggle gives way to synergy. That’s where the miracle happens.
In marriage, we can either pull each other down… or help each other rise.
And as we do that, we don’t just change our spouse—we become the grounded, confident, fulfilled women we were always meant to be.
But it starts with us.
We must stop letting our minds run wild with fear-based stories that cause us to react instead of respond. Life is hard enough—let’s not make it harder by neglecting our thoughts, our health, or our personal growth.
When we do the work to build emotional strength and spiritual grounding, our marriage benefits. Our children notice. Our friends feel it. The example we set is profound.
So I encourage you this week:
Don’t believe the lie that a bland, disconnected, or lonely marriage is “normal.”
Don’t assume thriving couples just got lucky.
They worked for it. You can too.
Start somewhere.
Read a book. Listen to a podcast. Follow someone who lifts you. Educate yourself on communication, mindset, physical and spiritual wellness. And most of all—learn to stay in your own lane.
There’s a saying I love:
There’s God’s business, their business, and my business. If it’s not yours, gently give it back.
Focus on what you can control. That one shift can prevent so much unnecessary pain.
If you’re going through a hard week, start there.
Take back your peace by taking back your power.
And know that I am with you. With my whole soul, I believe this work matters. The people in our lives reflect where we still get to grow—and where we can help others rise.
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While we’re reflecting on the beauty and challenge of loving another human being, I want to offer you a simple but powerful next step. If you’ve ever felt a disconnect in your marriage—not just emotionally, but intimately—you're not alone. That’s why I created a free PDF that helped me clear up confusion in intimacy. If you haven’t downloaded it yet, take a moment to check it out now:
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Keep going. You’re doing better than you think.
