Celebrate Your Ability to Welcome and Embrace Change with Confidence

I want to start this week by celebrating YOU. Every small step you take to strengthen your marriage—whether it’s a kind word, a moment of patience, or an intentional effort to connect—matters. Take a second to acknowledge your wins this week, big or small. They are shaping the marriage you desire!

This week is a special one for our family. On Thursday, we are welcoming our first daughter-in-law into our lives! This moment has given me a deep sense of gratitude—not just for this beautiful new chapter, but also for the coaching tools that have helped me navigate life’s relationships with clarity and love.

One of the most valuable lessons I’ve learned is understanding what’s my business, what’s other people’s business, and what’s God’s business. Staying in my own lane—focusing on my thoughts, reactions, and words—has been life-changing. As Mel Robbins puts it: “Let them.”

I get to let my son and his new bride be them. Instead of worrying about how things should be, I’m embracing how I want to show up as a mother-in-law. No hidden agendas, no trying to control or “fix”— I just get to love, trust, and be authentic.

And marriage is the best place to practice these tools long before you need them with others. As we navigate the changes, challenges, and growth within our relationships, our emotions become our greatest teachers. The way we show up today—learning to communicate, process emotions, and truly see our spouse—will ripple into every other relationship in our lives.

So, here’s my challenge for you this week:

When you feel a strong emotion in your marriage, pause and ask yourself:

• What’s really bothering me?

• Do I have the skills to resolve this conflict or process this feeling?

• How is my thinking affecting my response?

The sooner we develop these skills in marriage, the stronger all of our relationships become. What a blessing to practice with the person who means the most!

If this message resonates with you, I’d love for you to share it with someone who might need it. And if you want to dive deeper, join me for free coaching on Monday at 10 AM MT. I promise, if you show up, you’ll find the answers you’re looking for.

Keep focusing on what you want more of and what you can control.