Finding Peace and Alignment in Your Marriage

Have you ever noticed how, when your marriage is in alignment, everything else in life seems to flow? You’re a better parent, a better employee, a more supportive friend—and, of course, a better spouse. I believe that at the heart of every marriage are a little boy and a little girl who just want to be loved for who they are. But sometimes, instead of creating a partnership, we fall into battles—my family versus your family, my ideas versus yours—and it disrupts the peace.

In my own marriage, I’ve had moments where my husband and I were just not on the same page. I remember a day when we had a disagreement, and it felt like it was hanging over me. I went to run errands, but I couldn’t focus because my mind was fixed on the distance between us. All I could think about was how to restore that peaceful connection. Can you relate?

When we don’t address that discontent, it becomes too easy to live with it, as if it's normal for our marriages to feel off-kilter. But here’s the thing: marriage takes effort—whether you’re miserable or in love. The energy you spend being upset, frustrated, or trying to win small battles could instead be invested in finding peace and love in your relationship. And believe me, when your marriage is peaceful, everything else becomes more magical and fulfilling.

One of the greatest gifts you can give your children is to love their dad, just as the best gift you can give yourself is to see the best in your husband and assume the best of him. Forgive, overlook the small stuff, and let go of who’s "right" or "wrong." When you put in the effort to align with your partner, the entire foundation of your life feels stronger, smoother, and more rewarding.

If there’s one thing I want to inspire you to do this week, it’s to make that effort to find peace in your marriage. Whether it’s a small act of kindness, a conversation about aligning your values, or simply letting go of needing to win the argument—these moments of connection build something beautiful.

Call to Action:

Think about one area in your marriage where things may feel out of sync. This week, focus on that area. What can you do to bring things back into alignment? And if you’re ready for deeper support, book a call or visit leslielloydlifecoach.com. You can also simply join my free 1-hour Marriage Workshops, where I share tools to help you and your spouse find your way back to connection and fulfillment.

Together, let’s create marriages that aren’t just "good enough," but ones that are vibrant, passionate, and peaceful.