Embracing the 50/50 of Marriage & Life

Embracing the 50/50 of Marriage & Life

Welcome back! It’s so good to have you here. This community is all about improvement, not perfection. Before we dive in, take a moment to look back on your week. Maybe you sent a sweet text, gave a hug, or found a small way to serve your spouse. Even if the entire week wasn’t great, those little efforts matter. Celebrate them!

The 50/50 Reality of Life & Marriage

One of the most powerful lessons I’ve learned from my coach and mentor, Brooke Castillo, is this: Life is always 50/50.

At first, I resisted that idea. I thought, No! Once I improve my marriage, lose the weight, stick to my morning routine—then it’ll be better. It’ll be better there than it is here.

But that belief is a trap.

If we always think happiness is waiting for us in the future, we’ll get there and realize… it still feels like 50/50. Sure, we’ll have the rewards—better health, stronger finances, deeper relationships—but the work of managing our minds, emotions, and circumstances never stops.

That’s why learning to be present, to find peace right now, is so important.

Think about it:

• A number on the scale is neutral until we have a thought about it.

• A number in our bank account is neutral until we have a thought about it.

• The state of our marriage is neutral until we have a thought about it.

The good news? We get to choose our thoughts.

Instead of waiting to be happy “when things improve,” we can be grateful today. Grateful for progress, even if it’s small. Grateful that we’re learning, growing, and showing up just a little better than yesterday.

Because no matter how much weight we lose, how much money we save, or how much our marriage improves—life will still be 50/50.

Embracing Change & All the Emotions

Change is inevitable. It’s part of life. But because it brings uncertainty, we often resist it. Why? Because it stirs up emotions—fear, doubt, discomfort.

For so long, I just wanted to be happy. I wanted to push away anything that didn’t feel good. But I’ve learned that feeling all of my emotions—the good, the bad, the uncomfortable—is what makes life rich and meaningful.

And here’s something wild: Excitement and anxiety feel almost the same in our bodies. What if that nervous feeling isn’t something to fear—but something to lean into?

The worst thing that can happen is… you feel a feeling. And feelings don’t last forever. If we stop running from them and just sit with them, we move through them faster.

And here’s the beautiful part—when we allow ourselves to feel all of it, the good emotions feel even sweeter.

So today, I invite you to:

• Embrace the 50/50—both here and where you’re going.

• Embrace change—because it’s coming, and it’s guiding you.

• Embrace all of your emotions—because none of them mean something has gone wrong. They are simply part of the full, beautiful experience of life and marriage.

Let’s live fully, love deeply, and grow together.