Do You Know What Truly Makes Your Spouse Feel Loved?

First, let me take a moment to celebrate you. You are here—showing up, seeking inspiration, and investing in your marriage. That alone is worth recognizing. Marriage thrives on intentionality, and by simply being here, you’re creating space for more love and connection in your relationship. So, congratulations! Your efforts matter.

This week, I want to reflect on something profound: the ways we give and receive love.

For example, my husband, Rory, makes our bed every morning. I wake up earlier in the winter, and by the time I return from the gym, the bed is already made. That small act translates to so much more—it tells me he’s thoughtful, that he’s lightened my load, and that he’s taking care of something for me without being asked. That tiny moment of love ripples into how I show up for him.

He has also supported me in my health journey, whether it was training for a 5K, adjusting our diet, or making new health commitments. He never questions my efforts or dismisses them—he simply supports me. The same is true for my pursuits in life, from teaching dance to life coaching; he has never counted the time, money, or effort it took for me to explore my interests. He simply lets me grow.

That safety, that unconditional love, has made me reflect on how I can ensure Rory feels the same way in our marriage. Am I providing a space where he feels supported? Do I love him without conditions—without performance-based expectations?

Your Challenge This Week:

Think about your spouse—what have they done recently that made you feel loved, safe, or appreciated? Instead of asking them directly what they love about you, notice what they naturally express appreciation for. The little things they mention might be the biggest gifts you give them without even realizing it.

And in return, how can you reflect that same love back? How can you create a home where your spouse feels just as supported, valued, and safe?

Marriage is a journey of showing up—over and over again, through all the seasons of life. Rory and I have been together for 28 years, and while we are not perfect, we have committed to consistently choosing each other.

What do you appreciate about what your spouse does for you?

How can you show up for them in return?

If you feel inspired, share the things you love and appreciate with your spouse.